It has been taught by many spiritual teachers that when we are born we come into this world unconditioned, knowing only one thing — LOVE (some may argue” hunger” too, LOL). Love, that is all we know when we take that very first breath. Then, as a result of our most adult influences; parents, older siblings, extended family, school, community, religion … we learn everything else. Some things serve us well like kindness, compassion, generosity, and others such as hatred, prejudice, selfishness, etc. may not.
It is said that we as humans learn everything we need to know about how to be and exist in this world by the time we are 6 years old. It is as if we walk for those first six years with a video camera making notes of how to respond and react to every aspect of life.
“Oh that’s how a man deals with fear and sadness. Interesting, food is used for everything from anger, love, loneliness and boredom.” “Wow, people who have money — they’re bad — poor is good!” “Hey, I get it – you have to work really hard and get all your chores done before you have FUN!”
Do you see how we learn and do what we do? We mirror the teachers in our life.
Buddhist monks have often been quoted as saying, “give us your child until they are 6 and we’ll create a world filled with compassion.” Imagine how different the world would be if that was so? This article is not intended to make you feel bad nor judge how you have raised your child(ren) until now, but to simply help you be aware that your influence and the influence of certain environments can (and do) have an impact on the development of our children. Many would argue that these violent video games have precipitated a generation of kids who do not know, nor understand how to deal with uncomfortable emotions without turning to anger, sadly as we have recently observed.
I would like to suggest that compassion — which is believed to be the highest expression of love, is where we begin. Compassion; not only for others and trying to understand their pain and suffering, but ultimately compassion for ourselves. Compassion when we don’t feel good , smart or pretty enough. Compassion when we overeat, miss an appointment because we overslept or raised our voices at our kids. Compassion when we burn the chicken, or run into the backend of the car stopped in front of us. What if we begin to be a bit more gentle to ourselves and with others, believing that everyone is doing the best we can with what we know and when we know better we do better?
2014 – It has the potential to be an amazing year filled with infinite possibilities. Lean towards softness, kindness and compassion. We love experiencing it – giving it and teaching it can be an even greater gift!
Watch this powerful video to get you started:
Love to You and Your Families,