You know, like the time you stayed up half the night helping your child finish that science project because he waited until two days before it was due to get started? Or lay awake at 2 a.m. brainstorming ways to solve the rift between your daughter and her best friend, or maybe the teacher whose style of teaching doesn’t best connect with your child?
Most parents’ greatest wish for their child is to provide a life for them that was better than their own. But what if those adversities you faced growing up are exactly what has led you to some of the greatest things you cherish today?
Several times a months I offer a workshop called, “Finding the Gifts Amidst the Storms of Your Life.” During this 90-minute workshop the participants are encouraged to tell their life story backwards as a way of finding their destiny. The results are Earth-shattering for many, as for the first time they discover a part of themselves that they’ve spent many years anguishing over that they now realize has truly been the backdrop for discovering their passion, purpose and destiny in life today.
Take Adam for instance, whose parents were not so good with managing money growing up, which empowered him into a successful career managing multimillion dollar investment accounts. Or Sandra, who struggled with undiagnosed dyslexia as a child, found her way to the arts, and today has her paintings hanging in many art galleries throughout New York. And what about Mary who dropped out of college because of an unhealthy relationship with a man, that eventually led her to work in her parents struggling business where she helped build the value of the business? It was eventually sold at a great profit, and allowed her to open and run her own successful yoga studio today.
It is said that if you are looking for a rosebush amidst a garden of weeds, be grateful when you step on a thorn. In other words, if we don’t allow our children to fail and sometimes struggle we cheat them from building the skills and discovering their strengths that may help them be successful adults.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were allowed to go through life without obstacles, it would cripple us and perhaps we would not be as strong as we are.
If we didn’t have to walk to school, through three feet of snow without boots, we would have never been able to get through this long hard winter! LOL.
Here’s to Resiliency,
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